Aunt Minimony, AITA?
A member writes in: her fiancé’s ex made it onto the guest list! Should she grin and bear it?? Or let all hell let loose?
9/14/20251 min read
Dear Aunt Minimony,
My fiancé and I are making our guest list, and here’s the bombshell: his mother insists on inviting his ex. She claims they’re “still like family” and that not inviting her would be “rude.” Meanwhile, I’m over here picturing this girl sipping champagne at my wedding like it’s her sequel. I don’t want drama, but I also don’t want my own wedding to feel like a bad rom-com. Am I the assh*le?
Sincerely,
Not Starring in Love Triangle: The Movie
The Response
Dearest Triangle-Free,
Ah yes.. the dreaded "Ex at the Wedding" scandal — a plot twist no bride deserves. Imagine it: you, in a gown worthy of a Queen, and there she is, lurking by the champagne tower, smirking like she’s auditioning for The Bachelor: Resurrection. Unacceptable.
Let us be frank: the only people who belong at your wedding are those who actively root for your marriage. Exes do not qualify. They had their audition, they were cut from the cast, and now the role has been permanently filled.
How to handle Mother-in-Law Dearest? Simple. Say with a smile, “We’ve decided our guest list will reflect our future, not the past.” Translation: the ex stays home with Netflix.
Will there be sulking? Yes. Muttered accusations of “pettiness”? Certainly. But darling, weddings are not democracy, they’re monarchy. And you are the crown. Exes don’t get coronation invites.
Yours with claws retracted (for now),
Aunt Minimony
